So this would be me right now, having a lot of fear of my upcoming surgery. So I guess you could say I have Xenophobia also known as fear of the unknown. I think at some point in our lives we all have that fear of “what if.” Why do we torture ourselves with such fear and agony? I certainly wish I knew but as hard as it is for me to say, I think fear can sometimes teach us a thing or two. I even can go as far as to say I hate talking about certain situations because I think it might actually come true. Again that’s part of being in my bubble because I am afraid of the unknown, unfortunately my childhood has a lot to do with some of my fears and perfectionism. Being almost 40 I can’t go back and change some of those circumstances but looking back I know I surely would. I have missed so many positives in my life do to fear and lack of understanding so I guess what they say is true, “the older you get the wiser you are.” Having raised 3 girls along with a failed marriage (happily married today) fear became my middle name. I have avoided many fearful things in my life and I regret trying to face it head on. Fear does have a place in our lives but it doesn’t have to control of it. We are always in the drivers seat it’s how we drive ourselves that makes the difference. Don’t let it rule your life like I have because in the end all it does it prevent you from enjoying a life that was meant to be fulfilled!