Letting Go

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Boy if this isn’t a tough subject for me. Raising children isn’t easy in today’s society especially with social media, which is something I didn’t have as a child. I thought I had parenting down pat. I knew I would do things very different from the way I was raised but still keep the morale. My first child was an absolute delight, I didn’t have to yell and scream to get her to listen, although nighttime was never pleasant because she was up every 2 hours (ugh) wanting to eat and sometimes play. She didn’t have tantrums in the store (thank God) which is a parent’s worse nightmare. My 2nd child, well she was quite opposite from her sister. She did have tantrums in the store and drove me completely insane at times. Although she was different she had strong qualities about her. Then came my 3rd baby girl and as funny as it sounds she was the in-between of her 2 other sisters. She listened very well but again was up every 2 hours to eat and play. She has a tantrum every once in a while but we later found out she had a disability which I will go into in another blog. My point of all this is that once we watch our kids grow up we see what our kids are capable of and figure we can determine what they will be in life. Ha, not true at all. I could see my oldest being a teacher, my middle one as an entertainer, and my youngest a singer/dancer. As a parent we want the best for our children and usually want better than what we had. Now my view is I want my kids to be happy and I will be happy with whatever they choose to do with their lives. Why you ask, well because it isn’t my life to live anymore. I raised my kids to be respectful and have manners. But above all else to love one another treat others as you want to be treated. Don’t get me wrong my kids are no angels but I did the best I could with what I had and I am overall very happy with them, could they improve themselves? Absolutely they could but couldn’t we all?  My advice, don’t live your life through your children because I guarantee it may not work the way you want it to. Remember as a kid getting mad at your parents for trying to tell you what you should do with your life? Yeah, me too and that was me until I realized I was doing the same thing to my kids. Giving my kids good advice helps but they have a mind of their own and will do what they think is best not what you think is best. 

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